Living With ME: Loneliness

Loneliness affects many people: people with chronic illnesses, disabled people, old people, poor people. People with ME/CFS, of course, can fit into any and all of these categories, and it’s a huge problem. The Millions Missing campaign highlights it from the other side by campaigning for more funding for the millions of people who are … Continue reading Living With ME: Loneliness

The Prevention of ME/CFS?

ME/CFS can’t be prevented, we all know that. But do we? Certainly it isn’t something that medical professionals talk about, or ME/CFS advocacy and patient support groups, and equally certainly there is no proven method of prevention. I, personally, don’t believe that that means it isn’t possible. I think that we can protect ourselves, at … Continue reading The Prevention of ME/CFS?

Living With ME: A Good Day

It's ME Awareness week right now, so here's a very simple description of what one day is like for me with ME/CFS. This turned out to be a really good day, one of my best. They happen pretty rarely but they're great when they do come round. 10.30 – I wake up from a very … Continue reading Living With ME: A Good Day

Unresolved

New Year’s Resolutions: are you a maker, a breaker, or a faker? Or are you like me and just don’t make them at all? I have made them. I went through a phase in my later teens when I’d make myself a wonderful little list, which I then proceeded to ignore entirely without guilt or … Continue reading Unresolved

12 Things Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Has Done To Me

One day perhaps I’ll be all mature and balanced, and write a post called “12 Things Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Has Done For Me”. Today, however, I’m writing about what the experience of ME/CFS is like for me and the changes it has made in my life. 1  General fatigue  Then: I would walk three miles … Continue reading 12 Things Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Has Done To Me

Surviving Winter

Winter. It’s always been a question of survival. And in some ways, human beings are at a disadvantage: we can’t hibernate, we don’t grow thicker fur and most of us can’t afford to migrate. However, we make up for it with our big old brains. Winter is the reason we have fermented, canned, dried, smoked … Continue reading Surviving Winter

10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend

1. Listen To listen, with nothing more attached, is a powerful help. How often you do feel really listened to? Just let your friend talk. Make it clear they have your full attention: put your phone away, allow them to make eye contact with you, and give verbal and non-verbal feedback. Don’t be afraid of … Continue reading 10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend

My “Choice” To Be Bisexual

One person, when I recently told them that I am bisexual, responded by saying ‘Well, that’s your choice’. Here’s a short, sweet explanation of exactly what I have been able to choose about my sexuality. The Parts I Don’t Choose My sexuality. Who I’m sexually attracted to ain’t my choice. For me that can be … Continue reading My “Choice” To Be Bisexual

It’s Okay To Not Forgive

“Forgive and forget” is a maxim that will be familiar to nearly everyone who has grown up in an English-speaking country. After all, the English-speaking countries are historically Christian and forgiveness is one of the central rules of Christianity. In fact, both Christianity and modern culture have a huge culture of forgiveness, and this is … Continue reading It’s Okay To Not Forgive

Therapy Reflection #2

Why are therapists so obsessed with the past? I don’t want to talk about my childhood in therapy. Perhaps I will one day; perhaps then it will be helpful for me. But right now, no. There are reasons for this. Firstly, the reason I’m in therapy is because I want – no, need to change … Continue reading Therapy Reflection #2