Why Can’t I Just Ask For Stuff?

It should be easy but it's not. I’ve got other things to write about but this has been bugging me. Why can’t I just ask for stuff? On the face of it it’s simple, but really it isn’t. It’s so complicated that often it just becomes impossible. It’s been a problem with me for, like, … Continue reading Why Can’t I Just Ask For Stuff?

Self-Care Is What We Need It To Be

Self-care! Which of us hasn’t been infuriated on stumbling across yet another article advocating bubble baths and walks in nature? Self-care is a big old trend at the moment and that is an excellent thing. It isn’t enough, of course. We also need a societal structure that supports people to care for themselves properly. The … Continue reading Self-Care Is What We Need It To Be

On The Nurturing Of My Senses

Trigger warning: Self-harm I regard them with fear and loathing, and I avoid them whenever possible. It’s their own fault. If only they’d be nicer to me, I’d be nicer to them, but instead they keep intruding when they’re not wanted and are a constant, grating, irritant. I have a really bad relationship with my … Continue reading On The Nurturing Of My Senses

Surviving Winter

Winter. It’s always been a question of survival. And in some ways, human beings are at a disadvantage: we can’t hibernate, we don’t grow thicker fur and most of us can’t afford to migrate. However, we make up for it with our big old brains. Winter is the reason we have fermented, canned, dried, smoked … Continue reading Surviving Winter

10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend

1. Listen To listen, with nothing more attached, is a powerful help. How often you do feel really listened to? Just let your friend talk. Make it clear they have your full attention: put your phone away, allow them to make eye contact with you, and give verbal and non-verbal feedback. Don’t be afraid of … Continue reading 10 Ways You Can Help A Mentally Ill Friend